What kind of mother is more godly & which type of parenting is right?

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How does it feel when someone suggests that you should parent the way they do?
How does it feel when someone tells you what God wants mother’s to do that just happens to go against the way you are doing things?
How does it feel when someone suggests that their way is the only way?
What is a godly mother?  A mother after God’s heart.  She is a sinner and messes the whole thing up on a continual basis, but she is in the process of change.  She is trying to become more like Christ and love and serve others.  She gets frustrated, tired, questions her life and and wonders if she is messing her kids lives up.  She is trying to teach her children diligently, train up her child in the way they should go, and trying to love her children as God wants her to.  She is devoted to God and committed to loving her husband in a way that glorifies God and in accordance with his commands.
She does all this while trying to wipe snotty noses, sleep through the night,  stop her kids from fighting, keep her kids in school, praying her kids don’t try drugs, or get pregnant.  She does this struggling to love the prodigal teenager, and when her adult children break her heart.  She does this facing a reality that doesn’t look or sound as holy as she thinks it should.
Which type of parenting is right?  Parenting that pleases God.  Parenting that seeks to glorify Him.  It’s based on the Bible, powered by the Holy Spirit, and hangs on the power of prayer.
Aren’t you going to parent like me?
These people want us to follow their example.  It’s godly.  Depending on who we talk to this means that we should home school our kids, send them to public school, be a stay at home mom, work outside of the home, go to church when the doors open, go one time a week, go three times a week, or worship at home  This may mean that we should cook big meals, order pizza, fix a sandwich, make home made noodles, buy convenience food, or don’t cook at all.  This means that we should celebrate Halloween, or not because our kids will probably go to hell.  We should ban them from “bad” movies, or just go with them.  The choices are endless.
How does it feel when someone tells you what God wants mother’s to do that just happens to go against the way you are doing things?
 
A home school mom tries to convince you that her way is the only way when your kids are in public school.  You are a working mother and a stay at home mom brags about how God is only pleased when we stay at home with our children.  A family doesn’t acknowledge Halloween and explains their godly reasons for doing so in front of you knowing that you let your kids dress up and trick or treat.  A family says prayers at the dinner table and you don’t.  They just happen to tell you what God wants for you to do that just happens to be different then what you are doing.  They aren’t trying to teach what God’s Word says, but tell you what they believe should happen.
How does it feel when someone suggests that their way is the only way?
 
Jesus is the only One who can suggest this.  He truly is the only way.  God has a job for parents to do and has outlined our roles and responsibilities as parents, IN THE BIBLE. We are never commanded to point people to our way of doing things.  We are commanded to point people to Christ, to love and serve others.  There is biblical proof texts for home schooling and for working outside the home.  Who is correct?  Should I home school my children when it goes against my husbands desires?  Should I stay at home without his support?  Questions that need solid answers.  What we can do is point people to God’s Word and together we can search for those answers.
Mother’s are to teach younger women, but let’s teach them what God’s Word says not what we say.  Let us be careful not to place a yoke around another’s neck that God does not mean to be there.  There are godly mother’s who stay at home, who work outside of the home, who home school, and who send their children to public school.  There are godly mother’s that are single and divorced.  May we seek to search the Scriptures to inform us of how to parent and may we come together in prayer for how we may glorify God and obey His commands.
My way may not be the way for you and your way may not be the way for me, but may we seek God’s way and make it our goal to glorify and please Him over all else.
Marcy Pedersen

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