Fear permeates our lives. It can paralyze us. Fear can come in the form of people pleasing. If our chief concern is with pleasing people then we will do whatever we need to, to earn peoples approval.
Fear looks at a situation and panics. It asks the question, what will happen, and quickly answers:
- They will get hurt
- I will die
- I might fail
- I won’t get to see them
- I won’t have control
- There will be trouble
In a panic state we believe the lie, or the myth. We believe it so much in fact that it prevents us from acting, following God, and living our lives.
One way to overcome fear is to extract the myth, and replace it with truth. God’s truth. Here is a technique that you can use.
- Write down your fears. Be honest. I fear? Write it down.
- Then analyze that fear and write down facts about that fear.
- Identify verses in the Bible that speak about fear.
- When you are faced with that fear you can begin to rehearse the truth about that situation to yourself. This will include facts, and God’s Word.
We need to extract the myth from reality. When we do then we can see the truth.
Here is what that might look like:
- If they leave home I will never see them again.
- Let’s analyze this: Will you really never see them again? What are ways you can see them again? How long will they be away? Are they coming back? What facts do you have at this point about the situation?
- What does the Bible say about fear? Has God helped others through difficult times? How has He helped them?
- Can you see reality? If you are blinded you might need a close friend to help you through the situation. Maybe someone who can speak some truth into your life.
I started writing this post three days ago and stopped. I got some news and that news paralyzed me with fear. I couldn’t function. I cried and immediately lost hope. I hit bottom. In a few moments of despair I thought that it might be better if I weren’t here, and didn’t have to live through this.
Who am I to write about overcoming fear? I am someone who has struggled with it my whole life. When a situation arises that I can’t control I immediately panic. When I panic I can’t see the truth. All I can see is everything I am afraid of, and it consumes me.
I think what is sad about my fear is that it displeases God, and is a sign of my self-centeredness. I am so concerned with me really. How will I be able to see them? How will this affect me? How can I live? What will I do? It’s sad, but what I am really concerned with is me.
I am afraid I have no wise insights at this moment. I know God is real, I know He is working in my life, I know He has great plans for me, and that everything in my life is meant to be good for me. I know that God loves me and wants nothing but to teach, love and guide me. I know that I must trust Him, and stop trying to control what is His to control.
And today? Today I have regained hope, God is showing me a new life He wants to give me, one that scares me, why? Because it’s in His control not mine. I am scared, but I have hope, and a strange and renewed excitement that something good is going to come.
I can’t do this alone. I have contacted a friend who is wise and pray that she can help me navigate through the changes of life. Today I publicly state that I choose to trust God. I know that somehow He is working in my life in the same way He worked in David’s, Job’s, Joseph’s, and all the other saints.
To Him be the glory for the great things He hath done.