House Divided: R Rated Movies

We go to church on Sunday morning.  We come home feeling encouraged.  We have almost a glow about us.  God is good, and He is working in my life.  The pastor reminded us of how we are to teach our children, and share Christ with them in Word and deed.  We are responsible for teaching them, and showing them the way to live.

We think okay.  With God’s help I can do this.  It’s what God commands of me, and I want to please God so I will teach me kids even if that means I teach them alone.  I want to please God.  I will please God.

Later in the week our spouse wants to put in a movie in the early evening.  A rated R movie.  They don’t care about the bad language, the partial nudity, and adult content.  For some reason the rating board’s care more.

They don’t care that the kids are awake, and may even watch.  They may even encourage the kids to watch because it’s just a movie.  What’s wrong with the kids watching a movie. 

You may decide to tell your spouse that this isn’t a good movie for the kids, and that it goes against your beliefs.  It goes against God.  Now things are getting tense.  If a fight hasn’t already started it is getting ready to.  I mean aren’t you preaching to your spouse?

This has happened to me many times.  The movie below was one my husband wanted us to watch as a family.  This movie has violence, and nudity.  My husband just wanted us to have a nice evening watching a movie together.  He wasn’t deliberately trying to bring evil in our home, or ruin the kids.

starship troopers

So now where is that pastor when we need him?

1 Peter 3:1 “Wives be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the world, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”

Ephesians 5:22 “Wives submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

So how in the world we do subject ourselves to this?  How do we respect our husband when he wants our 7 years old son to watch a movie with nudity.

Now it’s not your job to save your spouse.  Your job is to follow God.  You are a servant of God.  So the question is what would God have me do?

  1.  We can respect our husband in this instance.  We can go to him with a loving and patient tone, when the kids aren’t around, and share our concerns for young children watching a movie with nudity.

No nagging, no preaching, no verses, no Christian music, and no manipulation.  Please don’t act surprised about the last one.  Tell me you have never been guilty of withholding sex because you were angry, or am I the only one?

If our spouse insists on watching the movie then ask the kids to help you clean the dishes, do laundry, play in their room, read a book, or something to keep their gaze off the show.  If your spouse insists that you watch it as a family then you can shield the child’s eyes when inappropriate parts are shown, or if you feel the movie is that bad then this may be a time when you have to insist that the kids can’t watch this movie.

Please be patient, and very discerning before choosing to go against your husbands wishes.  You live in a house divided, your kids are going to hear bad language, may catch an occasional R rated movie, and a slew of other things that happen when we live with unbeliever’s.

I have let my kids watch movies that were R rated.  The nudity was usually brief if at all, and the language was no different then they were hearing from their dad’s mouth.  Did I do the right thing?  I don’t know.  I always followed up these times with teaching about what God would have us watch and how He wants us to live.

2.  Remember, Romans 5:8 “but God showed His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  When you were in sin, God remembered you, and Jesus died for you.  Let that sink in.  Look at your spouse.  I mean really look at them.

In their unsaved state, desiring to show your son or daughter a bad movie, and you were no different.  Perhaps worse, and when you were like that Jesus Christ died for you.  God loved you when you hated Him.  So can you in turn love your spouse?

Yes.  Pray for him or her.  Pray that God would save them.  Listen I know this stuff is hard.  I know how good it felt at church.  I know what it is like to look at those Christian families at church.  They don’t have these problems.  Well we don’t know that do we?

This is our life.  God asks you to live it so that He is glorified.  That is where we MUST park. This isn’t about how your spouse is ruining your children?  This is about if you know God’s commands, are demonstrating Christ, and glorifying God.  The Christian life is hard, but do not lose hope.

God is in control of your life, your marriage and your spouse.  God can use this situation to save your children.  I plead with you to show your children Christ.  Christ was among sinners, and He showed them patience, kindness, and love.  As you show your children how Christ treats sinners they will be more impressed by this then by any movie.

I have seen it happen in my children’s lives, and know it can happen for you.

I am here for you.  If you need help please email me anytime.  You are not alone.  God is with you.  If this article was helpful please like it or share it.  I hope to help others in these situations.  Thanks.

Serve and follow Him,

Marcy Pedersen


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